Friday, April 22, 2011
tulips and the begınnıng of cıvılızatıon
Somehow, Turkey has gıven us the bıggest culture shock of the trıp. I thınk ıt ıs because everythıng ıs fınally ın the same alphabetö but sounds and looks barely understandable to our eyes and ears, topped wıth the fact that we knew very lıttle about Turkey before steppıng off of the aırplane. I dıd spend a few hours tryıng to tackle the Turkey Lonely Planet the afternoon before ın Bangkok, whıch was good because ıt gave us a few helpful socıal no nos to avoıd, and a better understasndıng of the crazy and wonderful food here, but also left much to be ımagıned and dıscovered. We spent a portıon of the day rıdıng the beautıfully clean, but unbelıuevably crowded subway (Mıchael was lıterally smushed between two large men gaspıng for breath as I trıed to hıde near the wındow whıle beıng pushed on all sıdes.) The more excıtıngö and comfrotable part of the day was spent ın some of the most amazıng hıstorıcal buıldıngs I have ever seen. The Aya Sofıa, also known as Hagıa Sofıa, took our breath away as we stepped ınto the maın hall. A buıldıng that was constructed as a church, then turned ınto a Mosque, and then turned ınto a museumö, ıt captures the heart and art of both Chrıstıanıty and Islam. Mıchael and I were both quıte enchanted wıth the Basılıca Cıstern, whıch ıs an underground water source for the cıty that was buılt ın 542AD. As we roamed ın the cool and dımly lıt expanse we both commented that ıt felt lıke we were ın a movıe, and that ıt mıght be the coolest human made thıng we have ever seen. (asıde from each other). We spent the later afternoon ın Topakı palace, whıch ıs a huge palace that was buılt by those who brought Islam to Turkey and housed many ınterestıng people ıncludıng one ruler who had over 300 conqubınes and 112 chıldren.
The food here ıs amazıng (more so for Mıchael than for me as ıt ıs meat heaven). Kebabs, doanrs, cucumbers, yogurt, olıves, tea, eggplant and hummus - we are just learnıng as we are tryıng to sample lots, but so far ıt ıs provıng quıte yummy. The people are also super frıendly and helpful. Alsoö we have gone back ın tıme and are now ın sprıng! The aır ıs cool and dry and we are even chılly! Tulıps are everywhere as well! Tulıps come from Turkeyö whıch we dıdnit knowö and they are so beautıful here ın the cıty as ıt ıs the tulıp festıval ın aprıl.
We are headed out ın a few mınutes to take an overnıght bus to the South near the Medıterranean Sea to do a portıon of the Lycıan Way whıch ıs a traıl that skırts about 500km of the coast and mountaıns ın the south. More updates to come. Hope all ıs well!
Monday, April 18, 2011
Head High Waves
Saturday, April 16, 2011
A bit of rest on a small little island

Greetings friends and families! I write to you from a small internet room - I think this is someone's living room - with a fan luckily blowing at my back. We have spent the last four days at the small and intimate island of Koh Phayam in Thailand. This has been a mixed blessing. We have started each day with an early morning run on the beautiful white sand beach in front of our bungalow. The food is amazing - the best Thai food I have ever had with fresh curries and fresh fruit shakes every few hours (mango, orange, or banana are the best!). The rest time after two months of moving around a bunch in Nepal has also been quite nice. I just finished my 14th book of our trip and am well into the next one. Michael is also reading a ton which he is loving as well. We don't make enough time for reading at home. We have spent most of the last four days reading in the shade while the hot sun time passes over us with a warm tropical breeze. We also got a couple of surf mornings and afternoons in while the sun was weak and the waves were good. This was a welcome surprise because we didn't know there was good surf here.
The "bad" part of all of it is that it is just too soon for us to be in the sun. Or, maybe never again will we be the sun showered people we used to be. We have hunkered in the shade for most of the day reading - 9am until about 4pm, but the reminders of feeling stuck in the shade have re-opened my skin cancer feelings, but have also sparked some good conversation between us both. We have made it work for sure, but I think there is still some processing to be done on my part about the whole melanoma thing and changing our relationship with the sun. But, good to have some time to process it, and wonderful to get so many yummy fruit shakes and hammock sessions! I have also gotten to put my new SPF gear to the test - it holds up well even in the tropics!
Well we are off to Bangkok tomorrow on an overnight bus for two more days in the city. We have a few more temples we want to see, and we are treating ourselves to some Thai massage therapy before we head off to Turkey.
Sending love to all of you at home! Hugs and kisses!
Kelsey and Michael
Monday, April 11, 2011
Khao San Road
This morning we left for Thailand and are currently parked in the infamous Khao San Road.
While it conjures up for me some silly memories of earlier visits to Thailand, Kelsey has been stoked looking for cute new clothes. The Thai New Years, Songkran, begins in a couple of days, so we are gearing up for some nutty water fights.
We are eager to head out afterward for some proper solitude. We're heading to a tiny island for some hammock time slung up between, and in the shade of, the palms.
Thursday, April 7, 2011
20 Days trekking in the Annapurnas
Sunday, March 13, 2011
Bigu Gompa- from Kels
Three Weeks at Bigu GompaMichael and I set off from KAthmandu three weeks ago feelingoptimistic and excited. We took a twelve hour bus ride, that includedgoats both inside and on top of the bus, the aisles and all spacespacked with people, a few naps, two packages of coconut cookies, 623switchbacks, and two stops for dahl baht (the staple Nepali food thatis eaten once, twice, or three times daily and is a combination ofrice, baht, and lentil soupy stuff, dahl, and a vegetable on theside). We climbed from the river, up and over a few mountain ranges,and descended in Singati, a small river village at the end of thebusline and at the start of our day hike up to Bigu. We spent a lovelynight in a guesthouse in Singati marking the last time we would sleepin a double bed for a long time, as well as the last night we would bethat low in elevation for quite some time. After rising early, bothexcited and trying to beat the heat, we set off up the trail along theriver that headed up the valley and into the mountains. The walkingwas beautiful. We felt strong with our packs, and enjoyed the earlymorning cool and calm as we climbed to our first stop for tea. I havehad more tea since being in Nepal than I have ever had in my wholelife. I love it. We actually had tea time every day at the Gompa.Amazing. Anyway, after our stop for delicious black and very sweettea, we started a fiercly uphill trudge for about two hours. The twoplaces we were supposed to stop for lunch, little shops along thetrail, were closed due to the coming holiday. So, finally afteranother few hours, we found a shop that would at least sell uscookies. The milk cream cookies are delicious. And they have smileyfaces on them! Mike went for the coconut. Feeling refueled, or atleast energized from the sugar rush, we took off again under theafternoon clouds. As we climbed higher and higher, the clouds filledin and, just as we were commenting on the nice break from the morningheat, the clouds opened up and started spitting rain on us. This wouldhave been fine if either A. we had put our raingear at the top of ourbags, B. we were not about to go straight down to cross a river, onlyto head straight back up hill again, or C. it did not turn very coldand turn to freezing rain. After about an hour of rain and frozenfingers, we found another little shop that served us tea and made usnoodles. We were only an hour from the Gompa, so we rested for a whileand then set out, this time in the most direct route possible,straight up the hill. Reaching the Gompa as wonderful. We went rightinto the kitchen and sat by the fire and they served us tea and hadwarm faces.The next three weeks consisted of much daily ritual, but so manysurprises at the same time. The nuns there practice Tibetan Buddhism,about which we learned a great deal in our time there. Michael and Ioften rose with the horns blown between 4:30 and 5am, then to followthe gong into the Gompa for Puja (prayer). We sat, mentally entraced,but physically uncomfortably, marveling at how these women satcross-legged for so many hours a day while our hips could only standabout ten minutes before needing to shift. The time in Puja wasamazing. We could sit there for almost two hours and either let ourminds wander, practice Om mani padme hum, the prayer for compassionfor all living beings that we would say as we moved through our prayerbeads, or try to meditate. Most often the nuns were chanting, whichwas calming and thought provoking. After puja each day we would eatbreakfast, and then we would teach an English/math class to a group ofeight nuns. We had the class that was thirteen to sixteen years old,mixed ability, and all very eager and curious. After class we wouldhave a break where we would either help out in the kitchen peelingpotatoes or cutting veggies (much less efficiently than the nunsthemselves), and then would take some time to read. I read five bookswhile at the Gompa, three of which were about Tibet, the Dalai Lama,and Tibetan Buddhism. It was such a treat to have so much time toread, but also to learn so much about Tibet and Buddhism while livingwith nuns. Learning about Tibet was horrifying for a few reasons.Partly understanding that I was completely ignorant about the subject,but mostly because of the genocide that has taken place in Tibetbecause of the Chinese leadership and that it continues today. TheTibetan people are beautiful and rich with culture. They live simplyand efficiently, growing and cultivating all that they need for theirfamilies.After an early lunch, Michael and I would then head down the hill tothe Sherpa school (while many people think of “sherpa” as someone whomight carry your bag, Sherpa is actually a group of people who oftenserve as guides and porters in the Nepal mountains because of theirexpertise and unique genetic make up that allows them to carry moreoxygen in their blood and therefore function better at highaltitudes.) The children were adorable! The first day we arrived atthe school we were greeted by each child saying “good morning sir,good morning miss” and each shook our hand. We went right intoteaching with little instruction of what to do, what they knew, orwhat had been done before. It took us a couple days to figure it allout, but then started on a role with each class. The most successfulwas the oldest class, I think about a second grade US classroom. Weconnected with that group and were able to do some good grammar workand practice speaking English. The youngest class essentially stagedmutiny, covered in snot and dirt, and started marching around the roomone day. Michael started filming it all, and I, both crying andlaughing so hard I wasn’t sure which I was doing, decided to just joinin the with the marching. For a teacher it was very humbling tocompletely lose any sense of control in the classroom. There is avideo that will follow of this event. Besides working with theincredibly motivated and grateful kids, it was also cool to teach withMichael. It did take us a couple of days to lose our egos and sense ofcontrol and really work together, but when we did it felt special tobe able to work together in our “profession” but in such a unique wayhalfway across the world.When we would return to the Monastary after school we were rushedright into tea time which was always lovely. We would then do variousactivities for the nuns before crowding into the kitchen for dinner.At first I ate slowly and small portions, but eventually I gave intoTenZing (the head kitchen nun) who liked giving big portions, andknew, better than I, that days and nights at the Gompa were cold, andI needed more food. The food was delicious – all vegetarian as ispracticed by many Buddhist nuns, and consisting mostly of potatoes,rice, and flour products. It was like the anti-atkins diet. It lackedthe many vegetables and protein I would normally like, but we drank aton of tea each day (made with the cows milk) to try and get someprotein.The other part I forgot to mention is that almost each day Michael andI would head up”the hill” which was a steep hill behind the Gompa. This hill wasabout an hour trek to get up to a place where you could see even thehills of Tibet in the distance, as well as the beautiful Rolwalingrange that lit up the sky. We needed to get our fitness back after amonth of not much fitness in the states, and it also helped us getused to the altitude. Mostly it was just beautiful, and was the onlyreally private time that Michael and I shared while at the Gompa.The nuns did let us share a room, which meant three weeks in a singlebed (college!) while both of us were sniffling and coughing because ofthe cold much of the time. This might seem like a private place exceptthat “grandpa” the old man that takes care of the electricity at theGompa, had to go through our room to get to his room. This meant thata few times each night we would exchange some awkward time with himwhen he would wander into our room and fumble with the lock on hisdoor, often standing for moments at a time just looking at us, andthen finally retiring into his room. I managed to never let him see menaked, but it was close a couple of times. We had to create a look-outsystem for changing.There are many more things for me to say about the Gompa – it was anincredible three weeks. The most life-changing parts of the experiencefor me were two-fold. One, I found that through my reading, and dailypuja, I felt reconnected to my spiritual self than I have felt inyears. I feel that I have found some aspects of Buddhism to be a goodfoundation for the faith that I want to practice, really building myown “religion” but through the guidance of the basic belief in “ommani padme hum” which is compassion for all living things. While Ifound that Michael and I were not as “close” while at the Gompa inmany ways (much because we lacked privacy and could not be publiclyaffectionate like we normally would be), I felt closer to him in aspiritual sense. We had some very powerful conversations aboutcommunication and our fundamental beliefs and how we want to see themin our daily lives. The other most powerful part of the experience wasliving amongst an incredible, powerful group of women everyday. Thesewomen carry hundreds of pounds of wood on their back up and downmountains. They grow their own food, they live life fully and totallyself-sustained, while also taking many hours a day to devote to theirlearning and spirituality. Needless to say, it was inspiring.I think this is enough for now. There is much I haven’t said, likecelebrating the Tibetan New Year on March 5-7, but there will be morestories to come.
Love and best wishes to all, Kelsey
Bigu Gompa- from Mike

Early morning chanting. Prayer flags flapping in the wind. Daily hiking. Mountain views into Tibet. Teaching english to nuns. Reading about Tibetan Buddhism, their oppression, and the Dalai Lama's approach to non-violence. Celebrating the death of a nun's mom as well as the Tibetan New Year, Losar. Bigu Gompa was everything that we hoped it would be and more.
Getting their was tough. A bouncy 10 hr ride on roads cutting up a mountain. Piled in a bus that had to be from the the 60's. When goats were hoisted up top and led in the bus, I knew it was getting real. Needless to say, we were thrilled to start hiking the next day.
The hike to BIgu next day began at 7 am and it started easy enough, following a dirt road, meandering up a canyon. But after our first tea break, we left the road and headed up, up, up. We felt strong at first, but as the hours past, and all the lunch spots were closed, we continued on hungry and progressively more tired. Around 2pm, with Bigu in sight, the rain came, quicly switching to slush. Our wonderful guide Tashi, in trying to get us their quicker, took us down terraced farms, crossing a river on a suspension bridge, and then steeply up. Kelsey seemed to be fine but my legs were cramping every step. And every step seemed to be huge. Hands were numb. Stomach grumbling. Spirits low. But we eventually made it. It was obviously worth the effort. And after the hike, we had almost three weeks to dive into the life up their.
At the gompa, we had our own room, sort of. An old man lived through our room, so he continuously would be walking in. We shared no common language, so there was a lot of smiling and laughter. We also shared the room with a mouse that would keep me up at night. On the last night, the mouse tore through Kelsey's poncho-- some good-bye.
Mornings started early at the nunnery. Deep horns would blow at 5 am to wake you. Drums would start at 5:15 am. And puja began around 5:30. Puja is chanting and meditation. The nuns gather in the main gompa and chant together for 2+ hours every day. Kelsey and I would go most days. It was beautiful, though not easy for me to sit on the floor for that long. After a couple of days, our neighbor nun Nowang, taught us about the "Om mani pad me hum" chant with the meditation beads. As you push each bead through your finger, you quietly say: om mani pad me hum. This is a compassion meditation that literally means: embrace compassion for all living things. After learning this, Kelsey and I would sit together in Puja, both meditating on compassion. This daily experience fulfilled many of my motivations to come to Nepal. It was beautiful.
Teaching. Kelsey and I "team taught" all the classes. It was fun to see her in action and to share the expeience that way. The nuns we taught were a group of 8 early teens. While they were always laughing and chatting, they really wanted to learn. We worked on situational diaglogue- "Excuse me, can you show me where the toilet is?"- which, whenever we would see them out of class, they would practice. They shared insight into their Dharma lessons from their Rinpoche. It was clear that despite their age (early high school equivalent), they were on a deep spiritual path. Kelsey and I were both inspired by this. When they described the teachings by the Rinpoche, they mentioned that while he never laughs, his smile is bigger than words could decribe.
We also would walk down the hill to spend our afternoons teaching at the local Sherpa school. Walking onto the school yard, we'd be greeting by twenty young kids, often snot dripping and pooling down their face. "Good afternoon si-ir!" I'd be greeted as we shook hands officially. There would be a line of kids who were waiting for the handshake. Often, kids would get back in line 3 or 4 times for multiple shakes. Our classes with the oldest group were wonderful. The kids (9-11 yrs old)spoke Nepali, Sherpa, Tibetan and English all proficiently. They LOVED copying things down. So whenever we had to switch gears, we'd have them copy some long paragraph so that we could of what to do next. Teaching the youngest group was a different story. Lots of yelling. Bouncing. Jumping. Extra snot. One time, the class got so out of control that Kelsey just cracked up- uncontrollably- and started jumping along with them. When the Nepali teacher peeked in to see what was happening- well- it wasn't a shining moment for education but it was hysterical.
Our teachings were interrupted by the 4-day Puja. A nun's mom passed and the nuns would spend 4 full days in Puja. The chanting was different. It sounded celestial. It provoked calm and giving-in. We learned that the purpose of the chants was both to help the spirit leave the body as well as giving an offering to Buddha. I thought of the first time I was in Thailand when I stumbled into a cremation, which was a total celebration. It was then that I realized how differently BUddhists treated death. On that trip, I had thought a lot about the death of my mom. Once again, during the chantings, I thought of her intensely. I could feel her smiling, and I could see her.
I shared this with Kelsey. And on our next hike up the hill behind the nunnery (which we hiked almost every day), Kelsey presented me with a set of prayer flags. (These all have the "Om" prayer written on them, and when the wind blows, the prayer is let out into the air.) Kels said that since the place had been so powerful for me, as well as for her, that we should hang a flag at the top of the hill- where we have read, and napped, and thought.We found two nice trees to hang the flags between. Immediately the wind picked up and the flags began flapping.
Our teachings resumed only briefly after the 4-day puja ended because it was time to party! It was Losar, the Tibetan New Year. And for three days, the nuns went wild. Well not quite. But for only these three days they were allowed to listen to music, dance, and play games. And so we joined in- dancing, playing, singing. Some of the games were totally insane and impossible to figure out (like a rendiion of "kill the person with the ball"), and others were old throw backs, like Chute-n-ladders and Go Fish. The dancing was genrerationally segrargated. The teens somehow knew all the latest moves, while the older nuns were, not surprisingly, more conservative in their jiggy. We were excited to learn the traditional song and dance of Losar, which consisted of moving your right foot in and out like a slow version of hokey pokey without ever shaking it all about. Kels and I frequently would say "NGW" (Nuns gone wild) as we looked out at them playing and dancing mildly.
We left Bigu and returned to K'du shortly after the end of Losar. To summarize the experience in a few words, I'd choose the meditation mantra we learned: Om mani pad me hum. Compassion for all living things.
Saturday, February 19, 2011
the giants in the distance
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Bamboo

Wow. I am not sure what has been the coolest part of the trip so far. Maybe it was meeting Anon, Mike's longtime friend and co-leader on trips to Thailand, and his family. He took us into his home and shared his world with us. As one of Michael's dear "brothers," it is clear that Michael and he share a connection, but from very different worlds. Maybe it was when we got to cut down a tree for firewood and bamboo for cooking on our trek with Anon in the woods, and then carry them two miles to his house. Maybe it is anything that has to do with bamboo because I am convinced it is the most amazing growing thing on earth. Maybe it was the Thai iced tea I had this morning that was deliciously rich and sweet and full of sugar! Maybe it was riding an elephant. Maybe it was sitting quietly at Anon's favorite hilltop temple overlooking the farming valley below. Maybe it was the "three hour car ride" that turned into a day long adventure because Anon wanted to stop and visit each family member along the way. Maybe it was climbing one of the highest mountains in northern Thailand with a mandatory guide who was smoking a cigarette and wearing flip flops the whole way - unphased by anything. Maybe it was the public hot springs that the local hill tribe uses to bath that we got to experience last night after sunset and this morning at the crack of dawn. Think Hot springs meets public bath - but its free. We would have paid more than $100 in the US for that time. But, I guess I don't really need to choose a favorite. The generosity of Anon and his many family members, along with the generosity of the many Thai people we have met has been tremendously welcoming and caring. This part of the trip has been a delight for me to visit a place that is so important to Michael. It has also been such a gift to experience a new culture that is so simple, but so complex at the same time.
Now we are off to Thai cooking classes this afternoon. We got to choose nine of our favorite dishes that we will learn how to make, and then we get to share them with our friend Pim, when we are done. Tomorrow we head to Nepal. We will probably have internet one more time before we head up to the Buddhist nunnery.
Hope winter is going well. Sending love and thinking of you all!
Sawadee Kup!

Eating buffalo skin. Being splashed with holy water. Riding elephants. Trekking in the jungle.
Thailand never ceases to amaze me. Each time I come, I fall deeper in love, and become more mystified, with the people and the culture. And having a local friend to take you around makes the experience so much richer.
After leaving Chiang Mai, we hopped in the Mighty Max truck (3 on a bench seat) for the ride to Mae Sariang. On the way, we stopped in his brother's village. Remote. On top of a mountain. The village is far from water, so a daily chore in trekking down the hill to fetch water. We saw the temple where I worked with the Sonoma Academy kids to build an outhouse. It still works. Ask Kelsey. Next, we went to Anon's sister's house where we sampled some of their homemade rice whiskey. They have a whole moonshining gig which is totally wild. When we finally got to our destination, Anon's other sister's house, we were welcomed to an amazing feast, including an omelet with ant eggs. It was surprisingly good (though Kels has a different opinion.) Later that night, while playing cards, we tried some of the grilled buffalo skin. It took all my effort not to throw up.
The next day, we left for Mae Hong Son. On the way, we went to a gorgeous mountain temple. Peaceful. Calm. Spiritually inviting. This was hilariously juxtaposed against our next stop: the moon shining hut in action. When we arrived at Anon's actual house, after unpacking, he took us to where he works. We walked from his house and immediately entered the jungle. For about an hour we followed a meandering stream. Then we scrambled up a steep hill with loose rocks and dirt. There, in the middle of the jungle, nestled into a steep ravine, were about ten others. Playing cards. Sleeping. It was break time. Shortly after, they got going sawing away, turning felled teak trees into 2x4's. This is illegal work. The punishment: 10-20 years in jail. The pay: about $100/month. The joy: hanging with your buddies in the woods, putting in a hard day of work. I tried sawing. Failed. And was laughed at. Returning to his house, we needed some firewood. So we cut down a tree. I did it. Rad.
The next day we hiked a gorgeous mountain. We took a guide. Was wearing flip flops. And had a cigarette in his hand the entire walk. We followed the hike up later that night with a soak at a local hot spring. Tons of people. You sit by the edge of the water. BUcketing yourself with almost scalding water. Soap. Shampoo. Splash. Splash. I then realized that most of the people there do not have hot water showers. This was there hot shower. Pretty cool. We went back there this morning at 5:30 for a good bye cleanse.
Let me just add something about Anon's wife's family, with whom we spent a lot of time. Her parents are Kareni refugees from Burma. Her dad was fought with the Chan against the Burmese army from when he was 13 to 26. Wow. (Made me think a lot of the great book: The Land of the Green Ghosts.)
Well. In Chiang Mai now. Head to Nepal tomorrow. In an hour, Kels and I will be taking cooking lessons. Excited.
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Temples and Elephants

Today was a busy day of temples, elephants and delicious food. I just wrote a long blog about the day and then it was unfortunately deleted, so here is the abbreviation.
We took a nice long walk before sunrise. The sun came up as were winding down a side street, following a monk on his daily alms walk.
We were inspired by two temples that we visited in the city. We sat quietly in the hall, enjoying the calm of early morning.
Then it was off to the elephant camp. Kelsey was in heaven during our ride. She's convinced we need to buy one.
We visited two of my favorite temples, Doi Sutep and Doi Kham. The highlight for me was circling the major stupa thrice in a walking meditation. The monk at Sutep blessed us with holy water and gave us luck with a string tying.
Tomorrow we head to the mountanis, staying with our friend Anon.
Check pictures on the blog "see our pictures."
Friday, February 11, 2011
Dollars to Baht
Otherwise great travel! It is a cool experience to basically skip a day. But here we are. Just had a yummy lunch and headed out to wander the city a bit before meeting Mike's friends for dinner.
It's sunny and warm here today. We are twelve hours ahead of East Coaster time so most of you are hopefully sleeping right now.
Sending love. more to come. Michael and Kelsey